Eating, Learning, Sex

Scientists claim that there are three things that stimulate the pleasure centres of the brain:

1. Eating
2. Sex
3. Learning

Put it in simple terms, if your child is immersed in something they enjoy, and they are not eating or having sex, it is pretty safe to say they are learning.

Radical unschooling is based on the principles of using your child’s passions as a springboard for learning.

Children remember that which makes them happy. (AKA Learning)

I see myself as a private investigator of happiness. As soon as my kids show an interest in or a passion for something, I make a note to help them have more of it.

Using these principles of internal motivation and happiness promotion, our weekly schedule now looks like this:

Monday morning:
Corey, Kai, Maya – Piano & Drumming lessons followed by a browse in the local bookshop where they can choose one book each to buy, and a hot chocolate in the Loganberry Delicatessen.

Monday afternoon:
I take all kids to our tennis club where Corey has a hit with his friend and I play tennis games with the other kids.

Tuesday morning:
The boys spend time at home painting, modelling, building lego and playing Xbox, while Maya and Jack go to the museum.

Tuesday afternoon:
Corey plays squad tennis for an hour while the other kids play at home.

Wednesday:
This is our chill out day where the kids rarely change out of their pyjamas and spend time playing at home. What they like to play depends greatly on what they are into at that time.

For example, Maya has just come through an intense period of crafting where she spent hours on end making arts and crafts. Corey is also in an intense Minecraft learning period and has spent hours researching strategy on YouTube then applying it to his game.

The boys are also planning to launch their first business “The Belfast Lego Club” and have been building a lego city as props for their club. I’ve loved watching this creation take place!

Thursday morning:
Maya has an ice skating lesson and the boys have a private tennis lesson. Jack usually goes to the park or an indoor play facility.

Thursday afternoon:
Spent cooking, baking and playing at home.

Friday morning:
Corey, Kai and Maya come with me to work at the local animal sanctuary. Here we walk dogs and play with young animals that need socialised for rehoming. Often the kids have to clean out the animal pens and care for the pets.

They have also learned how to respect and read animals and how ready they are for human handling which, has given them a tremendous sense of “other”.

I think that kids can relate better to small animals than they can to adults, simply because they are smaller than them.

Learning which animals need more time, patience and care has taught them to see a world outside of themselves and develop respect and empathy for other living creatures. This has really been a beautiful process to watch.

 

How To Raise Free Thinking Entrepreneurs

18 months ago I was running a company that took up an astounding amount of my time.  

I wanted to create something that would provide me with more leverage so I started researching online how to write an eBook.  In the process I discovered the world of Internet Marketing.

That day the flame of discovery ignited.

I started to write a daily blog, often getting up at 5am to do it before the kids woke up.

All my conversation was about my new journey, and my family became quite sick of me.

I couldn’t wait to get the kids into bed at night so I could have uninterrupted time to trawl the internet gathering information.  

Some nights I stayed up well past 2am because I couldn’t bear to tear myself away from what I was learning.

I was like a woman possessed.  Every fibre in my body was yearning to learn more, study more, read more… I couldn’t get enough!

Two years later, almost to the day, I own and run the web’s first professional body for Work at Home Mums.  

I have interviewed and been interviewed by, some of the web’s leading internet marketeers and am considered, by my peers to be an Internet Marketing Expert.

My eldest son Corey (8) loves computers and has an amazing capacity to concentrate for long periods of time.

His current loves are Minecraft and Lego Marvel Superheroes as he’s interested in anything that requires strategy to win.

His tennis coach told us, when he was five years old that Corey’s sole intent was to beat his opponent.  He wasn’t concerned about hitting the ball hard or fast, it was all about using strategy to win the point.

Strategy is a natural strength for him and computer games is how he loves to use it.

Corey is immersed in learning about Minecraft in the same way I was immersed with Internet marketing.  He spends the best part of every day watching, playing, reading and researching everything he can about these games.

This is how human beings learn.

When something resonates with us in such a way that it ignites a passion, we focus with intensity and laser beam focus.

School based learning does not tap into a human being’s natural learning process.  What schools seem to fail to realise is that reading, writing, math and science are tools to get us what we want.

The are the effects of learning, not the cause of it.

Learning math does not cause me to be able to learn other things.  Learning about things I love, causes me to learn math as an effect.  

I have watched my son’s reading, writing and comprehension explode in the three weeks that he has been given free rein to pursue his passions.  

I have watched him do his work with diligence, persistence and character.

I have witnessed him go to bed late and get up early, so intent was he to complete the next level.  A few hours sleep was only a necessary tool that night to help him achieve his goal.

I am excited for the potential I see in my eight year old to lead a life that is filled with joy, purpose and passion.

I only discovered it at 32 and haven’t done too badly.

I can’t even imagine what the future may hold for this free thinking entrepreneur.

What are your thoughts on school based learning?  Have you seen your child struggle to connect with what he’s learning at school?

Leave a comment and let me know.

Love Kim xo

 

 

3 Things I Learned In The First 2 Weeks of Passion Schooling My Kids

When we first embarked on the journey of conscious parenting, all of my rules about parenting came roaring to the surface.

Here are three that I discovered:

Belief:  If young children are in bed late (i.e. past 9pm) they will be exhausted the next day.  

Reality:  My children seem to need around 10 hours sleep.  If they go to bed at 10pm, they get up at 8am.  If they go to bed at 11pm, they get up at 9am.  Never at any point have they lived up to my internal idea of “exhausted”.  

Belief:  Suffering is a normal part of a child’s life. (i.e. Awwww do I have to do that/go there/have that/eat that/see that…. etc.

Reality:  When children are not being controlled all day and are free to explore their own passions, suffering doesn’t exist.  

Why would they choose to suffer over something they love and are internally motivated to do?

Belief:  When a child is throwing a “tantrum” or expressing a very strong emotion, you should ignore them until it passes.

Reality: Instead of ignoring my kids when they are having an emotional meltdown I have started kneeling down in front of them and wrapping my arms around them (if that’s what they wanted).

My aim is to show them that I’m trying to understand what they want because their needs are important to me.  

In essence, I look for the need underneath the behaviour.  

When you look for the need (the cause) of the emotion with love, patience and understanding, the “tantrum” is over in a quarter of the time.

I’d love to know… what are your beliefs that you’re scared to challenge?

Can you relate to mine, or have these always been normal practices for you?

Please leave a comment and let me know.

With love and deep appreciation, as always 

Kim xo