About a year ago I discovered a TED Talk by the mighty Seth Godin called Stop Stealing Dreams (you can watch it here)
In this talk Seth talks about how schools are killing our kids creativity and that they are in the “dark ages” when it comes to education.
This video had a profound effect on me.
(I wrote a blog post after watching it, you can read it here)
I have trained for ten years with human potential company Executive Success Programs, which has profoundly affected my view of the world.
Through ESP I have taken apart my belief system (built when I was a child) and put it back together again in a more integrated way.
And this way gave me a new perspective on how my childhood affected my adult life.
I also became violently protective of children.
Having understood on a visceral level how deeply my childhood experiences affected me, I committed to changing the way I parented.
When I started my first business three years ago we enrolled our homeschooled kids into the Holywood Rudolph Steiner school, which seemed like the next best option for us.
Ryan my husband, was keen for them to attend some sort of school as he didn’t believe that I could educate them at home in the way they needed educated.
I didn’t feel educated enough on the subject of homeschooling to convince him otherwise!
At home we continued to raise free thinking individuals and encouraged them to a question everything and never accept anything on good faith (which is what school actually wants kids to do… accept what I tell you and don’t question it).
And the arrangement worked fine.
Recently my eldest son Corey started to not enjoy school.
The work got harder.
He loved his friends, but hated the lessons (he told me).
(In fact, if you have ever heard any child, anywhere say that the thing they love about school is the lessons please leave a comment below)
His unhappiness was the best thing that ever happened to me as it made me question my decision to send them to school.
Is the goal of childhood not to be happy? In fact, is the goal of life not to be happy?
Why do we force our kids into an environment they’d prefer not to be in, to do something that they will do anyway, on their own? (Learn)
These were the questions I was asking myself.
Then I discovered Dayna Martin and my life changed forever (thanks Tabby Chapman).
Dayna embodies the principle of unschooling (you can watch a video on it here) which basically means that her kids are free to choose everything.
She lives in partnership with her kids and allows them to find their own balance through making their own choices.
In essence, her kids are free.
Isn’t that such a lovely word? Isn’t it what you crave every day?
I’ve never met a human being who didn’t crave freedom.
So why do we strip it away from our kids by controlling their every move? Why do we force them to do the things that WE think are good for them, rather than helping them to find their own passions?
How narcissistic are we to assume that we know best for our kids?
Questions questions questions.
So we took the kids out of school, removed all rules and restrictions and have embarked on a life of unschooling.
It’s been crazy, terrifying and exhilarating all at the same time.
And I’ve never been happier.
If you made it this far, congratulations.
I’m sorry this got long, but I wanted to give you the background before I started diving into the nitty gritty.
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